Law of the Jungle
She is a thoroughly new breed of single, older woman – confident, sophisticated, desirable and sexy – and the cougar woman is absolutely on the prowl according to Valerie Gibson, author of Cougar: A Guide for Older Women Dating Younger Men.
In what is shaping up as a relationships phenomenon of our times, many 40-something women have taken heed to Hollyw
ood star Demi Moore’s successful conquest of her now much younger husband, Ashton Kutcher – and followed suit.
They are removing the age barrier for dating and stalking much younger prey – men who are 10, 15, even 20 years younger!
It could be simply driven by supply and demand – the pickings of men their own age are as bare as Mother Hubbard’s cupboard.
Whereas, if they remove the societal age barrier and look backwards, there is a welter of testosterone-charged young bucks, seeking sexual experience.
Or it could be a status thing – women wanting to boost their image with a youthful male as an attractive “handbag’’. It sure beats the lonesome look.
But these predators post a real threat to social sexual balance when it comes to breeding.
Already, there is a shortage of available tertiary-educated males for educated single women in their 30s and this can only be exacerbated when the men who are available are poached by women who are past their prime child-bearing years.
In an article in National Seniors’ 50 Something magazine in February/March, psychologist Amanda Gordon raises many pluses, claiming the Cougar women are not looking to have children with younger men. She surmises they can actually “care for the young men for a few years, until they are ready to make a commitment to a more permanent lasting relationship, with the woman who will mother their children and care for them as they get older’’.
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age & aphrodite | nadine 09/05/2010
5 Comments to “Law of the Jungle”
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By Jane Randall, 18/05/2010 @ 11:57 am
Well, you know we disagree on this subject and I think you are being very judgemental about women in their forties. Bettina Arndt was on Radio National this morning and she sees the issue differently – there are many more women than men looking for partners at the present time than there are men available. Any man in his forties and fifties who has come through a divorce and is looking to re-partner is swamped with responses from women and has endless choice. One man received 18 responses within an hour after posting his profile on RSVP. Bettina says many of these men are choosing younger women because men are visually oriented, they prefer to date younger, more attractive women and given that they have such an extensive choice many of them choose to do so. Which leaves a lot of women left over with no partners -to judge them for choosing some intimacy with younger men is simply punishing women for taking control of their desires. You should also be judging older men in the same way.
By Marie Jonsson-Harrison, 18/05/2010 @ 8:12 pm
Great article – you do have some good points although, I don’t agree with you either on this one,lol. I for one celebrate that it is no longer taboo for an older woman to have a relationship with a younger man. I have always believed that whatever is good for the goose is good for the gander and even did a painting on that theme. Unfortunately I am unable to partake in this new smorgasbord (although I should rephrase that to Fortunately) as I am very happily married, however just because I am on a diet does not mean I cannot read the menu, right? Keep up the great work girlfriend. Love Marie
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